What is empathy?

What is empathy? These days, more than ever, there is talk in various media about the need to empathize with others. But there is less media to explain what empathy is and the difference between empathy and empathy. Therefore, in this article, we have fully and comprehensively explained empathy and its difference with sympathy, and we have explained to you strategies to increase empathy in life.

When someone is talking to you, you can listen to him well and try to see the world through his eyes and try to understand his feelings, as if you were with him in that situation.

When you empathize with the other person, he or she is more likely to tell you about all of his or her problems and issues that he or she does not share with anyone.

 

One of the elements that makes us empathize with others is that we do not judge anyone. You can not empathize with anyone at all, despite judging.

Basically, judging happens only if we do not understand the other side and instead of looking at the issue from his point of view, we look at the issue from our own point of view. This is against the definition of empathy.

Two ways to not judge others:

The first thing you need to do to not judge others is to correct yourself.

To do this, write yourself five words about an object or topic. For example, write five words about the pencil description and then ask a few members of your family to write five words about the word pencil. Read them as they write them. You will be surprised to find that they all wrote different words, all of which correctly describe a pencil. But most of them are different from you. This is because they have written about automation from their own point of view and you have written about it from your own point of view. In this case, you see that everyone has their own point of view, and we are not in a position to criticize or judge this point of view.

The second work has a practical aspect. Every time you talk to others, you should be careful not to judge others. Basically, when others talk to us, a mental conversation forms in our minds and a voice constantly tells us what this person did, if he did something better, and….

In order to practice this, every time you talk to others and this conversation forms in your mind, tell yourself that I am judging. By doing this, you will become aware of your process after a while.

In addition to not judging, listening effectively to others is the key to empathy. Unfortunately, when you talk to others, you find that after a while, the other person does not listen well to you and does not understand what you are saying. This will make you feel discouraged.

If you want to see the world through the window of the other person, you have to listen to him effectively. Effective listening means more than just listening to the other person.

Most of the time, there are several reasons why people should talk to you. For example, the person tells you that he does not like going to work and talks about the hard work and work pressure and traffic on the way to work. But the more you listen to him, the more you realize that he is very interested in his work and just did not like some of the behaviors of his colleagues, and for that reason, he weaves all these heavens and strings.

You have to pay attention to the other side with your five feelings. For example, you have to see his behavior with your own eyes, listen to what he has to say, pay attention to the smell of the perfume he smells, and so on.

This is how you understand what the other person is saying. While listening to the other person, do not forget that you should give color and glaze to his words.

Here are some tips to help you listen to your opponent well.

1. Make sure you are with him:

The first thing you need to do to listen to the other person is to reassure him or her that he or she is with you and that you are focused on the other person.

To do this, it is better sometimes to insinuate to the other person with words such as ohum and well that you are constantly listening to him.

2- Take notes:

In addition to showing that you care about what the other person is saying, you can categorize what he or she is saying. In this case, if the conversation is long, do not forget what he said to you at the beginning of the conversation. Also, if the person is contradictory, you can ask a question for more clarity and give him or her feedback.

3- Do not jump between his words:

If we want to make one of the biggest mistakes in the field of empathy? There is, let’s point, jumping in between conversations. When you jump in the middle of his career and talk about your experiences in vain, you make the other person angry with you.

Imagine that you see a psychologist because of an anxiety problem you have. The psychologist asks you if you have had such an experience in the past

You are reminded of a bitter memory for which you experienced a great deal of anxiety. You start to define yourself and you are very upset and in that situation you need someone to understand you, but at the same time the psychologist, instead of listening, tells you about one of his or her own or similar patient experiences, what While you shake hands. Do you tell him the rest of your career with the same feeling you had?

4- Do not drown in your thoughts.

Many people become distracted for a variety of reasons, including not being in the present, lack of self-esteem, and when the other person is talking about their own desires.

In this way, either they remember their own past, or because they get bored, they learn the troubles that they are going to face in the next month.

Lack of self-esteem is also one of the reasons why we drown in our own thoughts. For example, the other party tells you that my biggest mistake was that I did not go to a certain field. When you hear this sentence, you will remember the little things you did in the past and you will constantly blame yourself and after a few minutes you will come to your senses and realize that you have not heard a single word from the other person.

The root of this is that you have tied your worth to your achievements.

Ask a question:

The best way to hear the other person correctly is to ask him good questions, when your questions are right, he will easily explain the issues to you and thus the situation will be very clear to you and the other party.

One of the most important benefits of empathy over empathy is that positive things happen to you. In this way, or while talking to you, the subconscious calms down and sometimes it is seen that it has reached a solution to its problem. Otherwise, because you understand the situation quite clearly, you can give him logical solutions, and finally, if none of these scenarios happen, you close the case by saying the word sorry.

So far we have learned together what empathy is and how we should empathize. But the word that is most often confused with empathy is empathy. When we talk about empathy, we mean that you are not trying to see the world through his window, but without listening to him and doing the above steps, you are putting yourself in the other person’s shoes and giving him solutions. You make a mistake or you try to comfort him. This is wrong. Because it is based on your own ideas and will not be of any use to the other party. In empathy, unlike empathy, nothing positive will happen to the other party.

last word

If everyone understood what empathy is and how we can turn empathy into a life process, many of everyone’s tensions and problems would be resolved and no one would have a problem. Humans could more easily sympathize with each other and solve each other’s problems. Empathy is one of the most important tools for leading others. Mahan Teymouri